A Woman Found Out the Relationship Between a High School Bully and Her BFF’s Son—And Wondered If She Should Tell His Mom

A grown woman recently wondered if she should inform her ex-classmate and lifetime friend that the bully who made their high school years miserable is now her friend’s teenage son’s new stepmom. Here’s what the woman had to say.

They Were Bullied

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During high school, the woman and her classmate Kelly were tormented by a girl named Vicky. While both were at the receiving end of her bullying, Kelly bore the brunt of Vicky’s cruelty.

“Kelly was the one she tormented the most. That stopped a year before we graduated, and we didn’t hear from Vicky for a couple of years until our group was invited by the school for a reunion,” she continued.

She Apologized

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Years later, at a school reunion, Vicky reappeared, extending heartfelt apologies to everyone, including teachers she once had conflicts with.

Most people were forgiving and understanding after so much time, but Kelly, bearing deep emotional scars from the past, chose to ignore Vicky’s attempts at reconciliation. The woman herself, while not entirely absolving the bully, appreciated her efforts to make amends.

They Were Still Friends

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The bond between the woman and Kelly had withstood the test of time, and they had remained friends through life’s ups and downs. Their friendship witnessed significant moments in Kelly’s life—her marriage, the birth of her son Sam, and an ensuing divorce.

Post-divorce, Kelly’s ex-husband moved to Canada. Although the woman knew little about the reasons behind their split, she knew Kelly wanted nothing to do with her ex-husband.

Her Son Had a Stepmother

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Consequently, Kelly’s interactions with her ex were confined to conversations about their 15-year-old son, Sam. He lived with his mom but spent the summers and every other Christmas with his father in Canada.

“Sam has a stepmom (he speaks highly of her), but because of Kelly’s relationship with her ex, she never made an effort to get to know her and would only ask after Sam,” the woman added.

She Saw the Bully

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Coincidentally, Canada was the home country of the woman’s own husband and her 15-year-old stepson, and they all recently moved there, along with her 16-year-old daughter.

However, this move brought the woman face-to-face with her past bully, Vicky. Against expectations, her old enemy eagerly approached the woman, seeking a chance to clear the air.

The Bully Explained

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The ensuing conversation was very enlightening. Although Vicky didn’t attempt to condone her actions, she did reveal a tumultuous past dominated by a toxic family environment.

With the help of a caring relative, Vicky eventually extricated herself from her dysfunctional family, marking the end of her bullying ways. She spoke of therapy sessions, healing, and personal growth and joyfully shared news of her first pregnancy.

She Had Changed

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The woman added, “To summarize what happened, she apologized again. She was very sincere; she never tried to justify herself, and this time, I wanted to ask questions that I hadn’t asked before, such as: why did she do it?”

The woman found herself able to forgive and asserted that Vicky seemed like a totally different person. Despite their difficult past, she was happy for her.

She Was His Stepmom

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The woman saw Vicky occasionally at their local supermarket, and this resulted in a startling revelation—one day, she recognized Kelly’s ex-husband and Sam accompanying Vicky.

Piecing it together, the woman discerned that Vicky was, in fact, Sam’s stepmother. Something that the boy’s mother, Kelly, Vicky’s former victim, was certainly not aware of.

Her Children Liked Her

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The woman’s own children, who were both friends with Sam, spoke warmly of Vicky, confirming her transformation. Whenever they visited Sam’s home, they reported that his stepmom was friendly and welcoming. This left the woman in a moral dilemma.

On the one hand, she felt a duty to inform her friend of her son’s stepmother’s identity. But she worried that she’d be causing unnecessary anguish and familial tension if she did.

Should She Tell?

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Now, the woman is grappling with her decision: should she inform Kelly about Vicky’s new role in Sam’s life or remain silent for the sake of peace? Her husband advocated the latter, leaving her pondering whether saying nothing to her friend would be an act of betrayal.

Unsure, she sought a wider perspective and advice from the online community by posting her story online and asking for the honest opinions of strangers.

Online Users Responded

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One commenter said, “NTA. Better to let sleeping dogs lie and just say you thought she knew if it ever comes out. But if they’re getting the son actively involved in the subterfuge, then perhaps you should step in, as it could poison the relationship with his mother for years.”

Another replied, “NTA. Kelly has chosen not to learn anything about her son’s stepmother, which is pretty horrible, frankly, but it’s on her. It is appropriate for you not to get involved.”

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