19 Ways Extroverts Sabotage Their Own Success (Without Ever Realizing It)

From struggling in specific career pursuits to potentially sabotaging their personal relationships, we’ve identified 19 ways extroverts’ larger-than-life personalities might be unwittingly tripping them up.

Dominating Conversations

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Just because someone LOVES to talk doesn’t necessarily mean that they have a willing audience; unrelenting monologues can become tedious and indulgent, making a person seem self-obsessed. If you’ve ever been in a meeting where one person just won’t shut up, they’re likely an extrovert unwittingly hogging the spotlight.

Overcommitting to Social Engagements

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Extroverts find invitations to social gatherings hard to refuse. But, in their excitement, they frequently find themselves overcommitting and spreading themselves too thin.

While parties and birthday dinners may be fun, juggling too many at once can lead to burnout and negatively impact other areas of their lives, including personal relationships and professional commitments.

Over-Sharing

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Another side-effect of talking too much is that sharing personal details becomes second nature, leading to awkward situations or damaged relationships.

While open honesty can be positive, extroverts often don’t know where to draw the line between relevant information and privacy violations that result in betrayed confidence.

Never Being Alone

Lack Of Affection With Your Friends
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Solitude can be challenging for extroverts, but avoiding alone time can seriously reduce their ability to think through their problems and reflect.

Constantly surrounding themselves with friends, family, and coworkers may stave off the need for introspective thoughts, but eventually, any crucial issues that require self-reflection will be neglected and left undealt with.

Lack of Focus At Work

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While their energetic approach to their professional lives can look like marvelous multitasking, extroverts often find themselves scattered and unfocused instead. Being versatile is an asset but it needs to come with competency; otherwise, a person’s productivity will suffer.

Misinterpreting Silence

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When you love chatter as much as an extrovert, silence can equate to discomfort, making them feel compelled to fill every pause in a conversation for fear of awkwardness. Such tactics don’t match well with slow talkers or deep thinkers and can make extroverts terrible listeners.

Craving Validation

His Friends Are Distant
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Needing positive feedback is natural for extroverts, but being overly reliant on the praise of others can reduce their emotional independence and damage their self-confidence.

Misunderstanding Introverts

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What happens when one side of the social coin meets the other? It doesn’t always go well! Often, extroverts struggle to understand and cater to the needs of their introverted friends, family, or colleagues.

Can’t Accept Criticism

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Of course, nobody likes criticism, but extroverts often take it to heart more readily. With a large part of their psyche tied to external validation, hearing criticism can be tough to swallow.

While others may see criticism as an opportunity for growth and a focus for improvement, extroverts often view it as a personal attack.

Overlooking Details

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The saying “the devil’s in the details” insinuates that problems often arise from minor, less apparent intricacies. Because extroverts often look at the big picture, they can lack the meticulous, slow consideration required to appreciate the less obvious.

Impulsiveness

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Making quick decisions and being spontaneous are traits associated with more socially outgoing individuals, but this impulsiveness may lead to poor decision-making and glaring mistakes.

Some advice for extroverts among you: pause, breathe, and then leap – the landing will often be smoother.

Taking Over in Groups

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Extroverts consider themselves born leaders and naturally take charge in group settings. Overconfidence in leadership, however, can also promote resentment and mistrust among group members, particularly if their ideas aren’t recognized or valued.

Not Listening

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Unsurprisingly for a talkative group that shuns silence, listening well is not their forte. Extroverts sometimes forget to ask questions and can be guilty of steering the conversation toward themselves or waiting for their turn to speak instead of listening.

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

Fear of Losing My Parents Terrifies Me
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Though it’s difficult for introverts to imagine, outgoing people often feel they cannot decline social invitations for fear of missing out, even if they include activities they don’t enjoy.

Because they crave being at the heart of social occasions and fear being excluded, they may force themselves into situations they find uncomfortable.

Overselling Themselves

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Justified confidence is to be admired, but extroverts can get so excited about a project that they overstate their capabilities or promise more time than they can reasonably allocate. This can lead to mistrust within a group, missed deadlines, or unmet expectations.

Struggling to Set Boundaries

Struggle With Change
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Some extroverts may look confused when people discuss boundaries because they can fail to see the necessity of setting personal limits, resulting in increased stress and emotional discomfort.

Having boundaries is essential in every aspect of life, protecting us from unacceptable behaviors that undermine our happiness.

Rapid Pace of Life

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With less tendency to stop and think, extroverts are known for always being on the go, failing to take sufficient time to consider or reflect. This can lead to them making more mistakes, being unprepared, or damaging their relationships.

Misplaced Trust

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Being more enthusiastic and excitable means that extroverts frequently make connections with ease. Unfortunately, in the giddy happiness of a new friendship or business relationship, critical thinking may be reduced.

Sometimes, they put their trust in undeserving individuals, leading them to share personal information or grant access to areas of their lives too soon.

Failing to Adapt

Our Past Mistakes Or Failures
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Surprisingly, extroverts aren’t necessarily the social butterflies they seem to be and can struggle to adapt how they approach various social settings.

Social strategies that make them adored party animals might not be appropriate in the board room, and being mindful of context doesn’t always come naturally to them.

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